On the other side of the year - the very tail end of it, I was in Lagos and needed to pick up some wax fabric (you might know it as ankara) as a gift for someone. I have a standard place or a standard 'guy' for almost everything in my life, so naturally, I... Continue Reading →
Fear! You again?
When fear walks into the room, he tries to convince us that dangerous and deadly are one and the same so, logically, we respond to dangerous like we would respond to deadly. But dangerous and deadly are not the same. They’re similar, but they’re not synonyms. The was to respond to deadly is the way Scooby-doo responds to everything; dangerous, you can proceed with caution.
Taking the Wheel
Confession: I am an instagram junkie. I don't post very often, but I spend a lot of time looking at what others have posted, and I even get a few (read: a lot of) screenshots. I have seen quite a few posts recently where people talk about how amazing 2016 is going to be. Someone... Continue Reading →
Manipulation
You should never seek to manipulate, control, or cause another to be dependent on you. It weakens you both on the long run.
Trust
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes: fear the Lord and depart from evil.
The two Cs
There are two things that can steal the joy we derive from our work and thereby stifle our progress and they are both very easy to fall prey to: the urge to compare ourselves to other people, and the urge to conform to others' expectations of us. Both are powerful distractions and both are fatal.... Continue Reading →
Inaction
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to do something, if you want to conquer fear, don't sit at home and think (or blog) about it, go out and get busy!
Success
Success is determined, not by whether or not you face obstacles, but by your reaction to them. If you look at those obstacles as a containing fence, they become your excuse for failure. If you look at them as a hurdle, it strengthens you for the next and nothing can stop you.
Going where the love is
As I grow older (and hopefully, wiser) I am learning the value of letting things go, letting go of things that are toxic, or just discomfiting, because I no longer have room on my little boat for excess baggage. And because I'm not looking for trouble, or complication, or drama. Truth be told, it's always... Continue Reading →
Sunday Morning Insight from Maya Angelou
my views on vulnerabilityI first found out about Maya Angelou the summer of my freshman year at college (sic 'em bears!), and the more I learned about her, the more my respect for her grew. She had endured a life of pain and suffering and still she managed to accomplish so so much - enough... Continue Reading →
Tomi’s Thoughts 