And I learned to stay woke and keep an eye on what's going on around me and never be paralyzed by the fear of leaving my comfort zone. Because sometimes, comfortable can become a coffin and like the frog, we may not realize it until it's sealed shut.
One strategy that you've practiced a hundred times will serve you much better than a hundred strategies that you've practiced only once.
Thinking about the games of hide and go seek that I played as a child made me think about how I've chosen to hide, rather than step out and pursue opportunities because I don't want to step out on a limb for fear that it might get cut off from under me. Living like this will ensure that I don't get hurt but it will also ensure that I am not able to achieve anything, because there's no ROI on anything hidden.
I'm learning that life is a journey - I personally like to think about it as a road trip - and on this road trip, I need to keep my eyes on your own lane and follow the instructions from my control device, otherwise, lanelessness is not the worst thing that could happen to me.
Potential requires hardship to hatch. If you shield the canyons from the windstorms, you would never get to see the true beauty of their carvings. Adversity is necessary. It does bring out the best in us.
I was reminded about the warning issued to self-confident people, especially those who are naively self-confident: be careful. You're not exempt. You could fall flat on your face as easily as anyone else. And I added to it: and trash talking beforehand makes it ten times as embarrassing.
When we're living in black and white, decision making becomes easy as pie because all we have to do is reject every option that is not in line with our values. Living in black and white makes life incredibly simple. But not so easy, I'm afraid.
Buffering begets more buffering. And buffering - turning over the same information in my mind a hundred times - is a waste of my time and energy. So I made a decision to stop buffering. When I have a challenge, I either do something to fix it or I figure out how to live with it. And if I truly apply myself and think through a challenge/ situation one time, and I am not able to reach a resolution, I take my hands off it and give it to God, who is a much better thinker than me. Most of the time the answers come to me when I'm not worrying about them.
If you break your neck, if you have nothing to eat, if your house is on fire, then you've got a problem. Everything else is an inconvenience. Life is inconvenient. Life is lumpy. A lump in the oatmeal, a lump in the throat, and a lump in the breast are not the same kind of lump. One needs to learn the difference.
Never fight a battle that you don't completely understand. Never walk into a conversation without a clear picture of what it is that I would like to walk out of it with. Or else, you may wind up looking like a fool.